PAY ATTENTION TO SELF TALK, IT’S CRITICAL
“Turn down the volume of your negative inner voice and create a nurturing inner voice to take its place. When you make a mistake, forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on instead of obsessing about it. Equally important, don’t allow anyone else to dwell on your mistakes or shortcomings or to expect perfection from you.” – Beverly Engel
My whole life turned when I realized that my world is determined by the thoughts and words I tell to myself.I realized that the more I like myself the higher my self esteem goes up.The more I like myself, the more I like others. And this realization changed my life.Now I use self talk to improve my life and the results have been amazing.
95% of our emotions are determined by how we talk to ourself. Our self esteem goes up,our ability to do a job goes up and our relationship improves. Every thought we think and every word we speak creates our future. Self-talk is the internal narrative you hold about yourself. It’s your inner voice and you may or may not have spent much time thinking about it or giving it any attention.
The truth is, our self-talk can actually have a much bigger influence on the way we see ourselves, and the world around us than we realize. Banishing our inner critic and learning how to have productive, positive inner conversations is not that tough.
Some people may find it easier than others to adopt positive self-talk. Others may have to give it more time and put more effort into it. Either way, it’s a worthwhile step toward bettering yourself and improving your sense of self-worth.
What you say to yourself with passion determines what you focus on and what you focus on determines what action you’ll take and the action you’ll take over over and over again will determine your habits and your habits will determine your results.Most people when they don’t get result as they want they try to do something different but invariably they go back to their old habit they are stuck in a routine..Before you can begin to use positive self-talk, you first need to identify how often and what type of negative thinking/self-talk you engage in. Once you understand this, you can make a start on retraining your thoughts.Some situations may cause you to indulge in more negative self-talk than others. Spend a few days listening closely to your inner dialogues. Are you supportive of yourself? Are you critical or negative? Would you be comfortable saying those thoughts and words to a loved one?.Think it through.Start to notice your thoughts and listen to what you are saying to yourself. Start to challenge your negative thoughts.
Positive self-talk is a powerful tool for increasing your self-confidence and curbing negative emotions.
Positive self-talk is not about tricking yourself into viewing everything as wonderful. It helps you to see the whole truth, not just the negative aspects of any given situation. By using more positive self-talk, you are more likely to build confidence and self-esteem, feel more in control of events in your life, and achieve your goals. People who can master positive self-talk become more confident, motivated, and productive.With practice, it can become more natural to think good thoughts rather than bad ones.
Although positive self-talk comes naturally to some, most people need to learn how to cultivate positive thoughts and dispel the negative ones.
“I’m going to speak up in the meeting today because I have something important to contribute.” This sounds like a positive plan and attitude.
“I don’t think I want to speak up in the meeting today because I’ll look foolish if I say the wrong thing.” Contrast this negative comment with the statement above.
Research has shown that people who are more inclined towards thinking optimistically, are also more inclined towards positive self-talk and utilize more active coping strategies when faced with stressful situations and challenges.
Positive self-talk helps you re frame the way you look at stressful situations, understanding that you will approach challenges with the best of your ability and that whatever the outcome – you did the best you could. Tackling these situations with an ‘I can do this’ mindset rather than a negative ‘This is too hard’ one, opens up new ways of thinking and problem-solving.
You’re probably aware of what it feels like to be around someone who is positive, self-assured and content in who they are as a person. They exude confidence, and it reflects positively on those around them.
People who utilize positive self-talk are also extremely capable of picking up on the positive traits of those around them.Focus on surrounding yourself with people who talk positively about you, and encourage you to do the same.
Write a few affirmations to yourself and repeat them,read them with passion. You may sound mad, but read them as loud as you can.The more you repeat the more it gets integrated and affects your whole personality and thereby the whole quality of your life.
Words have power you can use to curse out you down or bless and bring you up.So be the blessing to give away the blessings.